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Sacred Pipe of the Americas

 Valerie Lovelace will present, “An Overview for Cultural Awareness” on Monday, October 30, from 3:00 to 4:00pm.
Sometimes mistakenly referred to as a “peace pipe,” the Chanupa, or Sacred Pipe, holds deep 
spiritual meaning for Indigenous cultures across the Americas.  From the creation of stem and bowl, to the many ways Chanupa is used in prayer and ceremony, the Pipe is a spiritual gift for the People and the one who is entrusted with its care and safe-keeping.  Valerie  will share some of the commonly understood concepts and beliefs regarding this spiritual object.  You’ll leave this 
discussion with an enhanced understanding of Chanupa and be able to recognize ways it has been misunderstood or misrepresented in western culture.
The Lincoln Home is located at 22 River Road, Newcastle. This event is free and open to the public.

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Fall Floral Arranging at The Lincoln Home on Oct. 23

We hope you will join us, along with Shelley from Shelley’s Flowers and Gifts, on Monday, October 23, from 3:00 to 4:00pm.
Shelley, whose floral business is in Waldoboro, will demonstrate ways to arrange the spectacular colors of fall through her flower arranging.  
Come to learn some new ideas and maybe you will be one of the lucky few to take home an arrangement.

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A Tribute to Retiring LCTV Director Mary Ellen Crowley

My friend and colleague Mary Ellen Crowley received the diagnosis of cervical cancer this past year. She has gone through three rounds of treatment with radiation and chemotherapy. Cervical cancer is a tough diagnosis to begin with, but we all held out a hope that she would beat the odds. But then it spread to her lymph nodes, and now it has made its way into her lungs.

Mary Ellen is just 62. She made the decision to stop treatment and enjoy the life she has left. As I write this, Mary Ellen is leaving within the hour to head south to Massachusetts to live with her sister Pat, who will take care of her during this final passage of her life.

Mary Ellen looks remarkably good right now. She has been working in the LCTV studio to help with the transition of the management to Bristol resident Abby Ingraham. A bunch of us helped with packing belongings over the weekend, with laughs and sadness and food and the kinds of things friends can share in these circumstances. I shared more laughs and conversation at the studio yesterday with Mary Ellen, and goodbye hugs, and appreciation and acknowledgment of each other we have developed over the last couple of years.

Mary Ellen has been with LCTV for better than 10 years. She first became involved as a member of the board of directors, and her interest in production drew her quickly into a hands-on role, and for better than nine years now, she has been the station director, which has meant basically doing almost everything.

When I first arrived in my position with the Lincoln Home, I realized what a wonderful educational resource LCTV can be for this community. I approached Mary Ellen with the idea for the “Spotlight on Seniors” show, and within a short time, she provided the training for our production crew, and we have gone on to produce more than 50 shows.

Mary Ellen has a personal passion for giving a voice to people who might not otherwise have a say in community matters. She says, “The most important aspect of LCTV’s mission is to educate people about how to express themselves with video and then give them a place to air their productions.”

With her support and guidance, we were able to produce shows to inform our local community on issues such as food insecurity and our local Meals on Wheels program and food pantries; affordable housing; legislative issues such as the “Keep ME Home” initiative; proponents on each side of the “Death with Dignity” legislation; senior exercise and fitness and preventing and treating diabetes; hospice and end-of-life care; elder law issues; and looking at the broader demographic and social issues affecting seniors throughout our state.

Throughout all of our work together, Mary Ellen has always shown herself to be a great human being … simple, practical, humble and humane.

And in my view, this is how she has approached her illness and now her terminal diagnosis. She has shown great equanimity, living in the present moment, and making decisions about her treatment, and then her decision to stop treatment, with an open heart and practical presence of mind. She is choosing to live her final time with quality of life instead of chasing an ephemeral quantity of time.

Mary Ellen and I got on camera together to film a “goodbye and farewell” video to all of her friends here in Lincoln County.

Because of the poignancy of that show, I decided to set up a GoFundMe campaign to benefit Mary Ellen. I hope you can see your way to contributing a few dollars to help give Mary Ellen a beautiful send off from Lincoln County, Maine, the place she loves as a home, and now which she must leave all too soon.

You can see Mary Ellen’s goodbye video and, only if you wish, make a small contribution to her benefit, at www.gofundme.com/the-mary-ellen-crowley-care-fund. A donation is not required to view the video.

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Short-Term Winter Stays at the Lincoln Home: A Smart and Comfortable Way to Prevent Falls

Three different senior women I know have suffered accidental falls recently. A broken hip is always a concern with falls, but all three of these women landed on their face and look like raccoons with two black eyes. It is just heartbreaking and scary, and a confidence demolisher if it happens to you.

The Maine CDC says that accidental falls are the leading cause of injury related deaths in Maine for people over 65. It occurs more to women than to men. What is shocking in this statistic is that I have never known anyone to die directly from a fall, but have seen uncountable numbers of people over the years suffer life-changing injuries from falling.

The single most frequent reason that seniors seek either in-home care or assisted living is that there has recently been a fall, and sometimes a few falls. Each year the Lincoln Home welcomes residents who come for a short-term winter stay of a few months. It is a nice way to soften the Maine winter, but more importantly, short-term residents know how easy it is to slip and fall on hidden ice even when you’re being careful.


Even Minor Falls Can Lead to Serious Injury

Even minor fall can results in a severe injury such as a fracture of the hip, pelvis or femur requiring a hospitalization. Recovery from such an injury can be an obstacle course that can lead to other debilitating health problems. According to the Maine CDC, in accidental falls that resulted in death, it is because the fallen person had no way to call for help, and suffered internal bleeding because of the fracture, or suffered from exposure and hypothermia.

Many factors can increase one’s risk for an accidental fall. These include: Impaired hearing and vision; General loss of muscular strength and tone; Arthritis; Osteoporosis (Many people think osteoporosis is only a problem for women past menopause, but it can also affect older men); Vertigo; Cerebrovascular insufficiency; Neurologic disabilities such as a past stroke, Multiple Sclerosis, Parkinson’s Disease, or Dementias; Postural hypotension (sudden decrease in blood pressure). Sometimes a newly prescribed medication may cause dizziness.

Keeping Your Muscle Strength and Balance to Prevent Falls

If you are deconditioned, it is useful to consult with a Physical Therapist to receive an exercise prescription that is suitable for your current state of strength and health. The therapist will identify areas of weakness and imbalance that you are able to strengthen through specific exercises. These are not strenuous exercises! However, they are muscle specific, and receiving guidance can help you strengthen muscles you never think about, such as your foot and lower leg muscles, and the small muscles that support your spine.

Doing things like getting together with friends, gardening, walking, or going to the local senior fitness center are important for staying healthy. The good news is that there are simple ways to prevent most falls. By taking care of your overall health, you may be able to lower your chances of falling.

In general, you should stay physically active within your abilities, but also seek to gently challenge your abilities so that you maintain them. Regular walking improves your muscle strength, and keeps your joints, tendons, and ligaments flexible. Yoga is wonderful anti-aging medicine. Physical strengthening of the muscles used for balance is possible even for those in their 80’s and 90’s if a neuromuscular disorder is not present. We can definitely maintain and improve our strength, balance and flexibility through a variety of functional movement exercises.

Falls can never be completely eliminated. You’d have to wrap everyone in bubble wrap to totally prevent fall injuries. People need to lead their lives, and trying to eliminate all risk is simply not the way we do things in Maine.

However, being a strong and independent Mainer doesn’t mean you can’t take steps to reduce the potential for harm with some common sense measures. Call Valerie Lovelace, One2One Home Care Manager to arrange an in-home Fall Prevention Assessment. To learn more about Short-term Winter Stays at Lincoln Home, call Steve Raymond at 207-563-3350.

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10/16: Historical Talk at The Lincoln Home: A Young Loyalist

 In the spring of 1776, Boston was under siege by American troops.  General Howe, the British Commander, decided to evacuate Boston and move his headquarters to Halifax, Nova Scotia.  Hank Lunn tells the story of his GGGGrandfather, a 16 year old American loyalist, who fervently believed it was wrong to rebel against the king and joined the American Loyalist Irish Volunteers to fight. Join us in our living room, Monday, October 16, from 3:00 to 4:00pm. 

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Lincoln Home Residents Enjoy Coastal Maine Botanical Gardens

Over the summer residents from The Lincoln Home took part in a six week Therapeutic Horticultural program taught
 by Irene Barber in the Lerner Garden of the Five Senses at Coastal Botanical Gardens.  On this late summer day, residents harvested parsley, fennel, and kale to bring home and add to a delicious soup prepared by Chef Julie Adams. Observing textures, smelling and tasting were part of the program to help identify tasty herbs and edible plants.  The residents then learned how and helped to plant radish seeds. 

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Grey is the New Green

Grey is the New Green – Social Security and Women

Grey is the New Green

“Grey is the New Green” is the newest saying catching hold in Maine and New England. It refers to the growing trend for older workers to continue working and earning income to age 70. This is in part due to a shortage of younger workers.

Social Security is Especially Important to Women

There is a much more personal reason for women especially to consider working to age 70. More women rely on social security income than men, and they tend to live longer. By delaying taking social security benefits until age 70, you can greatly increase your monthly benefit, as well as the benefits you receive over your lifetime.

Your social security benefits are calculated by the 35 years where you had the highest earnings. Many women dropped out of the workforce altogether for children and family reasons. A report from Boston College’s Center for Retirement Research found that women are about three times more likely to have a zero-earnings year at some point during those 35 years. That is the case for nearly half of all women. Some chose to raise children, others went off to pursue a Ph.D. or other interests.

These gaps in income years skew benefits downwards. A recent article in the Wall Street Journal reported that “women who delay taking Social Security until 70 increase their monthly payment by 88% over their benefit at age 62.” If a woman had dropped out of work, returning to work (at a decent wage) to fill in the gap years allows her to grow her social security benefit.

For many reasons, it can be very tempting to retire at age 62. NBC news reported that “40.8 percent of the women who were newly awarded Social Security in 2014 were aged 62.” However, you really need to question the wisdom of the decision to collect social security at the young age of 62.

Know Where You Stand

We are believers that there are many positive reasons other than income and social security benefits to stay in or return to the workforce. Nonetheless, social security income is a major factor in basic comforts of living for a very large segment of the population. You will do well to understand what this means to your future by looking at your social security benefit “what if” scenarios. What if you retire at 62 versus 66 versus 70? If you have no pension and not a lot of savings, your social security income will be your lifeline to covering the basic expenses of living. Even though Social Security benefits are modest, the program lifts 14.5 million seniors out of poverty, and provides the majority of income for 61% of all seniors.

The Myth of Social Security Insolvency

There are myths that Social Security is insolvent. These alarmist views undermine faith in the system and cause some people to want to retire early. The Center on Budget and Policy Priorities states that “relatively modest changes will keep social security solvent for the next 75 years,” and that without any changes at all, the system is still solvent until 2034.

You can learn your earnings history and future benefits by going to www.ssa.gov/myaccount/. It is a good exercise for you to know exactly where you stand, especially if you had some low or no earning years.

To read the Wall Street Journal article

To read the Center for Budget and Policy Report

Steve Raymond is the Director of Community Outreach at The Lincoln Home Senior Retirement Community, and the producer and host for the “Spotlight on Seniors” show.

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Older Drivers: Having “The Conversation”

Are Older Drivers More Dangerous?

Older Driver

Older drivers may or may not become dangerous drivers. An unfortunate truism of aging is that some of our most competent, successful, self-actualized and responsible citizens can become very dangerous drivers. They become dangerous to themselves and dangerous to others. That is just a simple fact that is true in every single community in our car-driven country. The shocking stories are many… I won’t sensationalize them here. The Insurance Information Institute in a March 2017 report states that older drivers have higher rates of fatal crashes than all age groups other than the youngest age group.

Of course, it’s one thing to say “Aging drivers can be dangerous” as social commentary. It’s another thing altogether to say it to an aging individual. The transition from complete autonomy to increasing dependence upon others is challenging. It is always a difficult conversation, but it is a crucial conversation to have at the right time. It is a conversation I have had more times than I can count. I went through it for a few years with my own father. He was a 30-plus years Teamster and long-haul truck driver. You think he gave up his keys very easily?

When to Have “The Conversation”

The problem is, there is no absolute, black-and-white “Right time.” You may have a perfectly competent 94-year old driver, and a menace-on-the-road 69-year old driver. Age is not at all a good indicator. There are many ambiguities and varying circumstances. However, truth be known, by the time most drivers give up their keys, everyone around them would agree that they should have given up their keys a long time sooner than they did.

The loss of driving skills and reflexes creeps up on people unless they have had a suddenly severe health event. There can be deep resistance to giving up driving as driving skills become less competent. There can be very deep levels of denial and covering up of minor accidents. These are early warning signs of a dangerous older driver. The car evolves more unexplained dings and dents and sideswipes and all the family members have raised eyebrows, but feel perplexed about what to do. See the AARP’s list of 10 signs that older drivers should stop or limit driving here—>

We want to intervene, but we don’t want to offend or hurt feelings. Maybe we even have our own levels of denial or conversation avoidance. It’s easy to say, “It doesn’t matter about his feelings… he’s dangerous, what if he kills somebody? Take the keys away!”

Older Drivers’ Sense of Identity

Well, it’s just not that simple and easy for family members, and this is why many turn to an outside third party to have the “Dad-you-can-no-longer-drive” conversation. I have had this conversation with so many people during my many years working in Senior Care and Home Care. Our ability to drive and enjoy the “Freedom of the Road” is a huge cultural value in our country that is popularized around the world. Many tourists from other countries come here specifically for the experience of driving the “American Open Roads.”

The “Freedom of the Road” cultural belief is deeply ingrained in the American identity. The loss of the ability to drive is so hugely symbolic that it can seem to mean, “Your Life is Over.” You might as well be an oncologist telling someone they have cancer when you tell someone they can no longer drive. Except with cancer, you might have a fighting chance! The loss of driving privileges feels like a threshold that once crossed, there is no return. And usually this is true, and because it is true, we can realize that the emotional process of denial in the aging driver is really the desire to stave off feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and despair as autonomy feels like it is slipping away.

I have infinite compassion when I have “Stop Driving” conversations with aging drivers. I also have the sure knowledge that to avoid and delay the conversation potentially places the health and lives of others at risk. And so it is with both genuine compassion and civic responsibility and knowledge that I help an aging driver make the emotional transition to letting go of driving, not because he is forced, but because he sees the wisdom and dignity in doing so.

The Conversation has to start somewhere

The conversation must start with consideration of all the feelings related to identity and autonomy. However, once you have identified that there are problems, you need to begin the conversation with respect and compassion. If you meet angry resistance, you need to come back to it enough times to reach agreement on limits or stopping driving altogether. And if you meet a brick wall, it is time for a direct discussion with your parent’s physician. Ask that a report be made to the DMV so that a driving test and assessment is required. It is the wisest, safest and most compassionate thing you can do.

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Shingles Prevention and Treatment

by Steve Raymond and Jill Wallace

A dear friend of ours recently developed a rash that turned out to be Shingles. It’s one of those things we don’t think much about until we get it, or if we know someone dealing with it. It is definitely no fun because it can be extremely painful. It is worth knowing about so you receive quick treatment if it ever occurs to you.

Childhood Chickenpox May Lead to Older Age Shingles

Shingles is caused by the same virus that caused chicken pox during childhood. It is called “varicella-zoster virus.” Chickenpox in your childhood creates the risk of developing shingles in your senior years. This is because the virus enters the nervous system and hides away. It can reactivate in seniors into a very uncomfortable rash. In older seniors it can produce severe medical complications. The disease does not transmit from one person to the other. It only arises from within one’s own nervous system if you had chickenpox in your childhood.

The rash usually affects a small area on one side of the body, usually on the torso, but can also begin on the neck or face. Pain symptoms can be extremely sensitive because the virus follows nerve tracts to the skin. First there is pain, burning, numbness or tingling, then a red rash breaks out. The rash develops into fluid-filled blisters that break open and crust over. Other symptoms can include fever, chills, headache or an upset stomach.

Treatment and Risk

Shingles may be successfully treated in two to four weeks. However, it can also progress to severe nerve pain that may last for months. If you develop early symptoms, get treatment immediately. If you have an unusual pain or if you develop an unusual rash, it is definitely wise to check with your physician immediately, especially if you have other symptoms. While shingles cannot be cured, you might limit the outbreak with easy-to-tolerate antiviral medications. Topical creams will reduce discomfort, which can be quite severe if you let the rash get out-of-control.

Age is the biggest risk factor. Starting with age 50, the risk progresses as you get older. There is a 50% risk in people over 85. About 1/3 of all people will develop shingles at some point in their life. If you are 60 years old or older, it is wise to have a discussion with your physician about receiving the vaccine to prevent Shingles in the first place. The vaccine will reduce the chance of developing shingles by about 50%, and will reduce the severity of outbreaks if an outbreak develops.

Vaccine Recommendation for Prevention

The CDC recommends the Zostavax vaccine for adults over 60, with several exceptions. It is a single injection in the upper arm. Consult your physician to see if the shingles vaccine is appropriate for you. Medicare Part D will cover the vaccine as a prescriptive drug, even though it is a preventive vaccine. Paying for Zostavax runs from $215 to $250. Check with your private health insurance carrier to see if the cost is covered. Read more from the Centers for Disease Control on Shingles vaccination.

A Shingles infection is much more dangerous to your health than the vaccine to protect against it. Like any medicine, this vaccine can cause side effects, but the risk of serious side effects is reported to be extremely low. Have this conversation with your physician.

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